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A long awaited PADS Saturday

It’s been more than a little while since I’ve posted.  But I saw this fellow and got INSPIRED.  Now this is fabulous PADS.  Wondering what PADS means?  It stands for


Acts of



I love the fact that this dude is just totally jamming out for the fun of it.  He’s no movie star.  He’s just an average guy having a hell of a good time.  He’s obviously willing to put any insecurity he may feel about his body aside.  He is totally committed.  And I love that.

And lest  you be tempted to not watch this piece of awesomeness all the way to the end, let me warn you that he totally sticks the landing.  The ending is priceless.

I love the fact that the crowd gets in on his infectious sense of fun.  In a world where it seems so many are ganging up to cause hurt and build anger and institute violence, it’s good to know some people still can gang up to just have fun.


Jeanette DePatie AKA, The Fat Chick


I can’t do it alone, thankfully I don’t have to.


You need a strong support network in this world!


I’ll admit it.  I’ve been working in the body  positive, Fat Acceptance and Health At Every Size movements for nearly 20 years now.  And while certain things have gotten better and certain things have gotten worse, one thing is consistent. It’s tough.  I mean really tough.  And I admit that I have certain privileges that many others in the space don’t have.  I’m sort of medium fat.  That means I face fat discrimination but nothing like as much as bigger fats.  I am white and cisgendered and heterosexual among my many, many other privileges.  And even with these privileges it’s hard to be a self-loving fatty in this world.

I can tell you that I never would have made it over the past 20 years without connection.  I have relied on the support of organizations like NAAFA and ASDAH and several others.  And even when I didn’t see eye to eye with these organizations, I have been deeply glad they are there.  I have the support of so many other people doing amazing work in our space.  People like Marilyn Wann and Virgie Tovar and Hanne Blank and Dianne Bondy and Connie Sobczak and Michelle Hess and Isabel Foxen Duke and Sonya Renee Taylor and Jes Baker and too many others to count.

I have had the unflagging support of my husband and my family.  And I have had the support of my dear friend and business partner Ragen Chastain who is always up for a challenge–whether it be the Fit Fatties Forum or the Fat Activism Conference or our new Body Love Obstacle Course.  The point is, I don’t think I could have done it alone.  Thank God I didn’t have to.  I had help.

That said, I want to let you know that today’s the last day to enroll in the Body Love Obstacle Course.  I wish we could leave the order form up forever, but we can’t.  If you are somebody who is struggling with Body Acceptance, if you’re somebody who feels that your body issues are keeping you from moving forward and achieving the life of your dreams first, know you are not alone.  So many of us struggle with these same things.  Second, know that we are here to help.  If you’re struggling financially and need help taking the course we have a limited amount of scholarships available.  (Just email me at jeanette at the fat chick dot com if you need one, but do it today, okay?)  If you need a payment plan we can help you with that too.  But I would really hate for you to miss out on this amazing opportunity to work with Ragen and Me and some of the best coaches in the business including Jes Baker, Dianne Bondy, and Isabel Foxen Duke, Michelle Hess, Connie Sobczak, Sonya Renee Taylor, and Virgie Tovar.  We’ve got worksheets and homework and learning calls and calls where you can just release and share your thoughts and feelings.  We’ve got an exclusive members only social media group where you can support one another.  We’ve got so much to offer.  But you’ve truly run out of time to procrastinate here.  I hope you’ll go on over to our BLOC page and sign up right now.  Or if you need help, I hope you’ll send me an email right now.  But above all, I hope you get the support you need to live and love your best in the magnificent and wonderful body you have right this very minute.


Jeanette DePatie (AKA The Fat Chick)

Imagine a Body Positive World

In my last blog post, I talked about the importance of asking for help.  In this post, I’m going to talk about imagining a body positive world, AND I’m going to ask  YOU for help.

Imagining a body positive world is something I talk about a lot when I am hired to speak.  Imagine a world where you felt good about your body.  Imagine a world without fear where you were free to pursue your dreams right now–not after losing ten pounds, not after fitting into your skinny jeans, but RIGHT NOW.  Imagine that both you and the world agreed your body is perfect just the way it is.  What would be different?  What would feel different?  What could you accomplish?

I think if you’ve ever read this blog, you’ve at least considered what a body positive world might look like.  And you may have even considered how you might make the world a more body positive place.  But how many people do you know who may have never even considered a body positive world?  How many people never even thought that loving their body as is was even an option?  I lived over 25 years of my life before I even considered the possibility that I could love my body the way it was.  I was nearly in my third decade before the notion of jumping off the diet roller coaster even entered my head.  I am deeply grateful that I ultimately got this notion.  But I often wonder how my life would have been different if I had gotten this notion just a little sooner.  I wonder how my life would have been different if I had a comprehensive course to help me get to loving me a little stronger and a little faster.

That is why Ragen Chastain and I have created the Body Love Obstacle Course.  We want to help you imagine a world where all bodies are respected and treasured.  And we want to help you create such a world for yourself.  But we also want you to help create such a world for others.  And that brings me to the point where I ask for your help.

The registration is now open for the Body Love Obstacle Course.  You can learn about it here.  I’d love for you to take a look at it for yourself.  (We’ve got a fabulous new video up there.)  And then I want you to tell everyone you know.  Even if you’re not ready to take this step in your life (although I sincerely hope you are because we would LOVE to see you at the course with us) you can help make the world a little bit better by sharing this info with other people in your life.  You never know when a little nudge, when one little link and one little click can change the life of another person forever.

Imagine a world where all bodies including your body are respected and treasured.  Then help make it so.  All it takes is a few clicks.

Just head over to the Body Love Obstacle Course page and give it a share.


Jeanette DePatie

AKA The Fat Chick


Asking for help.


If I’ve learned anything this week it’s this.  Ask for help.  Ask for it sooner rather than later.  Do NOT spend time exhausting every other option on the planet first.  Just ask for help.

I think a lot of my identity is tied up with the notion that I am self sufficient.  I can handle anything.  Like I’m some sort of hybrid of Bear Grylls and Macgyver.  Just set me down with a laptop, a sharp object and a roll of duct tape and I can HANDLE it.  But this self view sometimes really gets in my way.

This week I’ve had two moments where I finally broke down (often sobbing) and asked for help about technical stuff I just didn’t understand.  And both times, the person I asked was able to help me.  And both times the helper asked me, “Why didn’t you come to me sooner?”  This is a really good question.  My stubbornness.  My need to be smart and independent and RIGHT cost me untold hours of frustration that could have been avoided.

And  I think this is part of the reason why Ragen and I have created the Body Love Obstacle Course.  I mean of course, many of us can get to a place of loving our bodies on our own.   In many ways Ragen and I did just that.  But why go it alone when you don’t have to?  Why suffer untold hours of frustration?  Why not ask for help a little sooner?

I’m proud to say we’ve released the second of our free BLOC videos here:

Click Here to check out the video!

I hope you’ll take a minute, click the button and take a look.  It’s all about being grateful for the body you have right now.  You might have to opt in.  But I hope you will.  Because we’ll all get by with a little less stubbornness and a little help from our friends.



Jeanette DePatie

AKA The Fat Chick

New Video and a New Plan


There’s no question, I’ve been away for a while.  As this video demonstrates, I’m still spending plenty of time talking about Health At Every Size and loving the skin you’re in.  And now I am BACK baby, and I am super excited to tell you what my dear friend and business partner Ragen Chastain and I have been cooking up while I’ve been gone.  It’s called the Body Love Obstacle Course or BLOC.  We’ve been working on it for a while now, and I think you’re going to love it.  It’s designed to help you over around and through the body love obstacles that keep you from the life of your dreams.

And we’re super excited to be kicking it off with a brand spanking new FREE video. I think this might be the best video we’ve ever shot….


It’s about how the way we feel about our bodies affects every area of our lives, and about how we can use that fact to create our best careers, relationships, and life.


(There’s only one catch – you *might* have to renew your email subscription in order to see this video.)

Ragen and I had a blast shooting this one – even though we live less than an hour apart, we don’t get to see each as often as we’d like, so before we shot the video we rehearsed over
a delicious dumpling lunch, and got super psyched to shoot the video!  So we got to eat fabulous dumplings AND we get to share some of our most powerful ideas about overcoming body hatred, kicking butt and taking names.  Talk about a WIN/WIN situation.  I hope you’ll take a moment to hop on over to look at our first free BLOC video.  And looking forward to talking to you soon!


Jeanette DePatie

(AKA The Fat Chick)

P.S. This video will only be up for a few days…
go check it out right now:


More Evidence that Fat Stigma is Killing Us

Today, I got an email pointing me towards some new research on fat stigma.  There has been an ever increasing pile of evidence indicating that weight stigma is making us miserable and sick.  We know that weight stigma makes us fatter,  increases inflammation, increases disease burden and decreases quality of life, increases the chances that we will engage in risky behaviors and may contribute significantly to diseases like diabetes and heart disease. We know that weight-based discrimination increases blood pressure and reduces our ability to think clearly. Now we have further proof that weight stigma is shortening our lives.

It has always been supremely frustrating to me that concern trolls are so ready to tell us that they beat us up about our weight because they are concerned for our health.  But as a person who has been on the end of concern trolling, I can tell  you that it doesn’t feel anything at all like genuine concern.  It feels like people relishing the fact they have an excuse to be a bully.  It feels like having a license that allows some people to spew hate under the micron-thick veneer of caring.  It feels like complete B.S.

And this new study indicates that the results of this hate can be profound and life-threatening.  The study states:

The ultimate cumulative effect of these hostile social interactions may be lower life expectancy. The present research examined whether the harmful effect of weight discrimination reached beyond morbidity to mortality and whether common comorbidities and health-risk behaviors accounted for this association. We also compared weight discrimination with other forms of discrimination (e.g., age, race, sex) to examine whether they share weight discrimination’s association with mortality risk. Finally, we examined whether the association between discrimination and mortality varied by sex, ethnicity, age, or body mass index (BMI). We tested these associations using data from two large longitudinal studies, the Health and Retirement Study (HRS) and Midlife in the United States (MIDUS).

After reviewing the data from both the HRS and the MIDUS, the study group came to some rather startling conclusions.  It appears that weight stigma can increase risk of mortality by a significant amount:

Weight discrimination was associated with an increase in mortality risk of nearly 60% in both HRS participants (hazard ratio = 1.57, 95% confidence interval = [1.34, 1.84]) and MIDUS participants (hazard ratio = 1.59, 95% confidence interval = [1.09, 2.31]). This increased risk was not accounted for by common physical and psychological risk factors. The association between mortality and weight discrimination was generally stronger than that between mortality and other attributions for discrimination. In addition to its association with poor health outcomes, weight discrimination may shorten life expectancy.

If people are truly worried about the health of fat people, they are going to have to give up on concern trolling.  Outside of the fact that you can’t hate someone for their own good (thank you Marilyn Wann), there is hard statistical evidence that it just may be your hate that is making fat people sick and giving them a shorter life.  Not to mention the horrible effect you have on their quality of life.  The study goes so far as to suggest that the harm of weight discrimination may be more harmful than any other effects of being overweight:

The present findings indicate that the harmful effect of unfair treatment that is attributable to body weight is not limited to psychological distress and morbidity: It also extends to risk of mortality. This association was apparent in two independent samples that covered different periods of the life span, and the association persisted after we accounted for behavioral and clinical risk factors. The effect of weight discrimination on mortality was generally stronger than that of other forms of discrimination but was comparable with that of other established risk factors, such as smoking history and disease burden. Moreover, the association between weight discrimination and mortality risk was in sharp contrast to the protective relation between some of the BMI categories and mortality risk. These findings suggest the possibility that the stigma associated with being overweight is more harmful than actually being overweight.

This type of research can have a profound effect on the lives of fat people around the world.  But just because it can doesn’t mean in necessarily will.  The media doesn’t jump to report these stories.  For many reasons, these articles aren’t popular with media outlets and are especially unpopular with advertisers.  If we want these studies to have an impact, we have to make sure that people in the world at large know about them.  We need activists.

That’s why I’m so excited that the Fat Activism Conference is starting tomorrow.  It’s not too late to get your tickets.  We have dozens of amazing speakers lined up ready to share ways that you can be an activist and an advocate for people of all sizes.  We’ve got speakers talking about activism and medicine and activism and art and activism and sex and many other topics.  I hope you’ll consider joining us for the conference.  This study indicates that activism against weight stigma may do more than just make us feel better and feel better about ourselves.  It just might help to save our lives.


Jeanette DePatie (AKA The Fat Chick)

New Study Suggests Obesity Doesn’t Make Joint Surgery Less Safe


Another media appearance for the bad knees.

I recently came across a recently published study that was published in The Journal of Arthroplasty regarding overweight and obese patients and joint surgery.  In particular, the study evaluates data from 900 hip surgeries and over 1,500 knee surgeries.  The data was evaluated in terms of weight, BMI, how often blood transfusions were necessary, complications from infections, and time spent under the knife (how long the surgeries took).

The study results were “counterintuitive” to many–meaning it failed to confirm some of their deeply held biases about hip and knee surgery and people who are fat.  The concern was that surgery on fat people would take longer than surgery conducted on thin people, and thus would increase the probability that a blood transfusion would be required.  This is of deep concern to doctors because blood transfusions can cause serious complications–with as many as 1 in 5 causing some sort of negative effect.

However, this assumption was not borne out by the research.  In fact, overweight and obese patients were less likely to require a transfusion than their thinner counterparts.  During hip surgery, on average 35 percent of the “normal weight’ patients required a transfusion compared to 28 percent of the “overweight”  patients and 22 percent of the “obese” patients.  During knee surgery, 17 percent of the “normal weight” patients needed transfusions compared to 11 percent of the “overweight” patients and 8 percent of the “obese” patients.

Furthermore, the study indicates that their research turned up no evidence that overweight or obese patients spend any more time under the knife than their thinner counterparts.  However, a slight uptick in complications from infection was noted for those in the overweight and obese categories.

A recent article in HealthDay turns to a surgeon from Los Angeles for a quote.  Dr. Alex Miric, an orthopaedic surgeon with Kaiser Permanente in Los Angeles stated:

“I agree that the results are counterintuitive,” Miric said. But he also agreed that conclusions “would need to be replicated with more surgeons and a larger and more current patient population before such a finding would gain traction in the orthopaedic community.”

Hmmm.  While surgeries for fat people might not take longer or be more dangerous than those for thin people, it seems pretty clear that surgeon bias against fat people is alive and well.  I have read many anecdotal accounts from people denied surgery–especially hip or knee replacement surgery because they were too fat.  People with diminished mobility and often severe pain are sent home to “lose enough weight” to be a candidate.  Those fat people determined to receive surgical relief often find themselves wandering a desert of medical red tape looking for a surgeon willing to take on their case.  And they suffer needlessly while they do.

The question of whether the mobility and pain outcomes are as successful for fat people as thin people is a topic for another post.  But in the meantime, I wonder how many studies will have to be done and how many cases will need to be reviewed before the “counterinituitive” nature (read physician weight-based bias) will be reversed.  And how many fat people will have to suffer for how long while we wait for that to happen.

Fired up?  Want to fight stigma and bias?  I’d love to recommend that you join Ragen Chastain, a huge group of additional talented speakers and I for the Fat Activism Conference THIS WEEKEND.  We start on Friday night, so if you don’t want to miss it, I suggest you register now!


Jeanette DePatie

AKA The Fat Chick