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Spring Chicks

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The first day of spring was a while back.  But I have to admit, for me spring starts with Easter.  This is a time of year where I yearn for renewal.  I tend to take a look at my life, see what seems to be working, and figure out how to strengthen those things.  I also take a look at what isn’t working and throw those things out.  Oh, and this is the time of year that I start cleaning like a wild, rabid banshee.  But that’s a different story.

But I think this time of evaluation is so important.  I tend to get really busy and get really focused on finishing the next task on the list.  So it’s really easy for me to lose track of whether or not things should even be on the list.  The older I get, the better I understand that I just can’t do everything I want to do.  I have to prioritize.  I have to choose.

So while I sweep and polish and scrub and throw stuff out, I’m also spending time spring cleaning my life.  A few of this year’s revelations:

1.  Envy can help me figure out what I really want in my life that I am not getting.  But it can also sap me of my strength.  This year, I’d like to hold onto envy just long enough to give me a kick in the pants and help me revise my priorities to focus on getting what I want and then show envy the door.

2.  I also spend more time angry than is really useful.  This year, I’d like to hold onto anger just long enough figure out if it can attach to meaningful action. If there is an action to take I will take it.  Then I will take that anger and just dump it.

3.  I spend way too much time Plants vs. Zombies and Burger Shop 2.  I won’t link to these games because they are like crack cocaine for casual gamers.  Seriously.  This year, I’d like to figure out what scary things in my life I’m avoiding while making virtual burgers and blowing up the undead and then go do those things.

I think you can see, that this year, I feel I need to focus more on action.  I have so many ideas in my head that seem super cool.  But I’ll never really know if they are super cool or kinda stupid until I just go do them.

So how about you?  Got some “spring cleaning” you need to do in your life?  Wanna share?  I’d love to hear from you!  Because sharing time with you is one of my big priorities for 2013 as well.

Love,

The Fat Chick

 

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Spring Cleaning: Wiping out Negative Body Talk

Let's do some "spring cleaning"!

In honor of spring, I’m initiating a little spring cleaning.  But instead of cleaning closets and windows and cars, this year I’m going to try clean up some of my habits, and assumptions and attitudes.  When cleaning closets or the garage, I’m pretty brutal about tossing out things that I no longer need or want.  So this year, I’m going to throw away a few habits and attitudes that just aren’t working for me any more.  I’m going to pull out the big trash can, and I’m going to start with negative body talk.

Does this sound familiar?

“I hate my thighs!”

“Does my butt look big in this?”

“I can’t believe she’s wearing that.”

“Why can’t I have hair like hers?  Mine is too flat.”

Yup, those phrases represent negative body talk–those little phrases we say inside our heads or share with friends in conversation that put down that most magnificent and beautiful and personal gift, our bodies.  Negative body talk is everywhere.  Our friends do it.  Our families do it.  And most of us do it from time to time.

So what’s wrong with it?  Plenty.  Negative body talk has an immediately detrimental effect on our physical and mental health.  A recent article highlights some studies that indicate that “fat talk predicts changes in depression, body satisfaction, and perceived pressure to be thin across time.”  According to one study, the more fat talk a person talked, the worse they felt–resulting in lower body satisfaction and increased depression after 3 weeks.

Negative body talk is bad for us, and it’s everywhere.  So why do we do it?  I imagine sometimes it’s to fit in and sometimes it’s because we feel bad.  But a lot of times, I think we do it because we don’t even recognize we’re doing it.  You see, negative body talk can be kind of sneaky.  Sure, we recognize a phrase like “I hate my butt” as negative body talk.  But negative body talk can also be much more subtle:

“I’m exercising so I can tone up and look good in a swimsuit.”

“I can show my arms because they look okay, but not my thighs.”

“That dress just doesn’t look good on certain body types.”

“I don’t need to look like a supermodel.  I just want to look good in shorts.”

This kind of negative body talk can be harder to recognize, but it’s negative body talk all the same.  It’s still damaging.  It’s something that “doesn’t work for me any more.”  And this spring I’m working to throw it all out.

So my little chicklettes, how about you?  Ready for some spring cleaning?  Let’s get out some big cardboard boxes and the super big industrial-sized trash bags and get ready to clean house!

Love,

The Fat Chick