If I’ve learned anything this week it’s this. Ask for help. Ask for it sooner rather than later. Do NOT spend time exhausting every other option on the planet first. Just ask for help.
I think a lot of my identity is tied up with the notion that I am self sufficient. I can handle anything. Like I’m some sort of hybrid of Bear Grylls and Macgyver. Just set me down with a laptop, a sharp object and a roll of duct tape and I can HANDLE it. But this self view sometimes really gets in my way.
This week I’ve had two moments where I finally broke down (often sobbing) and asked for help about technical stuff I just didn’t understand. And both times, the person I asked was able to help me. And both times the helper asked me, “Why didn’t you come to me sooner?” This is a really good question. My stubbornness. My need to be smart and independent and RIGHT cost me untold hours of frustration that could have been avoided.
And I think this is part of the reason why Ragen and I have created the Body Love Obstacle Course. I mean of course, many of us can get to a place of loving our bodies on our own. In many ways Ragen and I did just that. But why go it alone when you don’t have to? Why suffer untold hours of frustration? Why not ask for help a little sooner?
I’m proud to say we’ve released the second of our free BLOC videos here:
I hope you’ll take a minute, click the button and take a look. It’s all about being grateful for the body you have right now. You might have to opt in. But I hope you will. Because we’ll all get by with a little less stubbornness and a little help from our friends.
AKA The Fat Chick